#India: Stop #Violence on #Women – Take 3 Steps to #Freedom
We hope that people everywhere will participate, but since the ‘Freedom’ issues we tackle here are culturally a big challenge for Indians, we hope to hear from lots of Indians living in India and in other countries.
To participate all you have to do is go through the 3 steps described below and then click on the poll button that says ‘Yes! I’ve walked the 3 steps and I am FREE!’ And we will count you as a successful participant!
The 4th step is optional and is for those who feel brave enough to share their freedom story with the rest of us. This is a community platform, so we will proudly cheer you on!
The purpose of this Freedom Project is to address the issues that are the heart of the systematic violence on women across all classes in Indian society. These issues include notions of ‘culture,’ ‘loyalty,’ ‘honor,’ ‘family,’ and ‘silence,’ that make women mental and emotional prisoners of violence in their homes and in society. If we do not break these chains and become free from within, we can never strive for freedom outside.
STEP 1. RECALL
Think of one specific incident of violence on a woman in your personal life that you’d be too ashamed to stand up on a public stage and openly talk about. The victim could be you (if you are a woman). Or it could be someone close to you – your mother, aunt, daughter etc. Recall the incident in details in your mind. Remember what was done and said. Think of how you responded.
STEP 2. REFUSE
Now think of all the reasons why you would not stand up on a public stage, share your story, and openly condemn this incident and the perpetrators. Is it loyalty? Shame? Family? Honor? Fear? Now tell yourself that you are not bound by these and the other mental chains that keep you silent. Refuse to be loyal. Refuse to be shamed. Refuse to accept this incident in the name of family or love. Refuse to be silenced.
STEP 3. RELEASE
Tell yourself you want to share this story and let everyone know that a wrong was done to you or to a person in your family. Her rights were violated and she was abused. And then release this story. Tell it to someone you trust. If there is no one you can trust, then find a quiet space and sit down and tell it to your diary or your laptop.
Now you can click on the poll button below that says ‘Yes! I’ve walked the 3 steps and I am FREE!’ (see below) Don’t forget to click on the VOTE button after you’ve made your choice! At the start of 2014 we will tell you how many other Indian women and men have walked the 3 steps to freedom with you. We hope to be overwhelmed by the numbers!
STEP 4. SHARE
This fourth step is entirely optional. We want those who’ve walked the first three steps to share their story with us. You can do this under an anonymous name or under your own name openly. For that either leave your story in the comment box below. Or make a post on your personal blog and leave us a note in the comment box with the link to that post. IT IS IMPORTANT YOU KNOW YOU WILL NOT BE ALONE. CLICK HERE TO READ THE STORIES OF OTHER INDIAN WOMEN WHO’VE REFUSED THE CHAINS OF SHAME AND SILENCE AND HAVE SPOKEN OUT ALOUD!