A Message from Girendra Singh – Father Of A Dowry Victim
This is a special post, where we bring to you a message from Girendra Singh, the father of Anshu Singh who was murdered only 6 weeks after her wedding.
Anshu, a well educated, professional young woman, deeply in love with the man she married, was a victim of dowry greed and violence, and was killed by her husband and in-laws. To read her story click here. The 50 Million Missing Campaign has been supporting Mr. Singh in his fight for justice, and we are happy to inform you that after 2 years of a lengthy battle in court and with the police, Mr. Singh has been able to get Anshu’s husband, and all her in-laws into prison, where they now await trial.
Here is the letter from Mr. Singh:
To All Indian Girls Who Are Going To Get Married and Their Parents,
From December onwards is the Marriage Season in India, and perhaps you are also planning your wedding. I also got my beloved daughter Anshu married on 12th December 2009, with the man of her choice. A man she was in love with and wanted to marry. I got her married so happily with all Pomp & Shows as happens in all educated middle Class Families in India. But what had been the outcome of that marriage? We lost our Anshu — and it feels that we lost everything in our life. It is too painful for me to even describe the whole episode here.
But my main aim to write this is to spread a message to the Brides who will get married this wedding season and to their family. Please, please be very cautious before saying YES to any groom and his family. Please beware that even if you think the husband loves you, like my Anshu thought her husband did, the husband can change from the very next day after the marriage and be no longer what you expect him to be. And not only that, but the husband and his family once they start demanding more dowry, their greed does not stop. It only gets bigger and bigger and they want more and more after the bride goes to their house.
As the father of 3 daughters please accept my practical life experience — and I say this to all young Indian women who will be nice brides, and to their family.
I don’t want any girl and her family to go through their life like us. The pains and agonies of a grieved family are beyond the imagination and description on all fronts. The joy’s of life vanishes forever. Even today after 2 year’s, the family of Anshu is not able to attend any marriage.In every bride girls we see the face of our beloved Anshu and it becomes very much painful and beyond control to stay in those moments of happiness. So to avoid the family of friends and brides, we have decided not to attend any marriage till the God gives us strength to do so.
We know the pain and agonies of loosing a beloved daughter, who was just like any ordinary girl, full of passion, of ambition — she wanted to touch the sky. She was well educated, extremely fair and beautiful, having everything in life. Anshu was a very bold and ambitious girl and was working in US based MNC and getting handsome salary. She loved us so much that she could not bear that we may go upto such despair over the game that destiny played with her life. She left all family weeping. The happiness and joy of our family has vanished away for ever it seems. In the absence of our beloved Anshu, our ultimate aim is that no girl and family in India and world should face such tragic sufferings.
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